The Strategy of Being Nice

There are times when you are just frustrated and want to be anything but nice, or when you're around people you don't know and don't want to care about, or when you are dealing with people you do know who make you sick and still - there is something very powerful about the strategy of being nice.

First of all, it carries you out of the place of judgment when you're being nice. You have to focus on what YOU are doing and how YOU are acting and that takes the focus off of what other people are doing and how they are acting, whether you like their behavior or not.

And then it is a neutralizing action. No matter how much heat there is in frustration, anger, or whatever is going on in a situation, kindness brings in an unexpected element of neutrality. It takes 'reaction' right out of the picture.

And of course, it's a good thing to do because that which you reap you also sow, you know, karma, and stuff.

It looks like in today's world that things are just getting more and more extreme. It's insane when you consider how many interests put their multi-million dollar concerns before all human dignity. Sometimes things are bigger than us and what is there left for us to do? We can sit forlorn in the corner, we can sulk, we can get pissed, we can do nothing.

But the strategy of being nice is, perhaps, the biggest thing you can do. In that moment, you step back and allow others to do the things they need to do, to learn what they need to learn in this life. Whether it's something you think is good or not - it's still their karma and yours is still in your choice of whether you fall in with them and do their thing, whatever it is, or you employ the strategy of being nice.

Look around at everything that happens in life - there is alot to get upset about. but you can choose your response and your response will inform your future. You may not like what others do, but stay out of the place of judging them, and practice the strategy of being nice. For the more you practice kindness and the more you come from that neutral place, the more goodness will surround you and the less anything negative can truly touch you.


Blessings.
- Darshan




© 2010 Darshan F Jessop