Overcoming Judgment-Struggle-Imagining-Attachment

Sometimes the way things happens is way too ironic. You think you're doing everything right and your world falls apart, you think you're goofing everything up and all of a sudden something brilliant happens. Here is Darshan's sage wisdom about that...

1. Judgment is the worst of all things we can do to ourselves. We judge ourselves and in that judgment, we end up doing things we don't want to do, getting fanatic and rigid about the things we do, getting stuck in ruts. Because judgment is the choice between good and bad, right and wrong. That strong polarity leaves out other important elements such as balance, flow, ease and the ultimate perfection of the Universe.

2. If judgment is the worst, struggle comes in second. Through judgment we come to this place of feeling like we have to do more, be more, have more, because what we are, do and have is not enough, not good enough, not anything enough. So we struggle. We struggle to climb that ladder, we struggle to get by, we struggle to get better, we struggle and fight and twist and contort ourselves until there isn't much of us left. Struggle itself is a symptom of pushing and shoving - to be more precise, it is the direct result of trying to push and shove life around to make it more like that picture perfect image in our mind's eye.

3. So then we come to that image. That image that we have of how life is supposed to be, and how things are supposed to happen, and every other "supposed to" is just an illusion. It was an idea that we somehow believed was truth and now it colors our very world. But it's still just an illusion and it is, as ever, our choice whether to believe that illusion or not. Perfection is the moment as it is, unadorned with our colorful raiment for it and our stories and feelings and drawings about it; it simply is.

4. And then not only do we have these images, we are attached to them. Almost desperately attached it seems. We would rather do just about anything than let go of these expectations of the images we have of how life should be, how we should feel, and the struggle we effect to get them and the judgment that starts all over again once we do, because it is never enough. We have stuckness because of attachment, and we have pain because of attachment, and we have constant dissatisfaction because of attachment to an illusion that life should be other than it is.

And all of this comes back to personal choice. We have the choice for it to be so, or not. We choose everyday, in every moment whether we will be present enough to honor the moment or whether we will begin judging ourselves for not struggling enough to be somewhere else and because the image of our lives is not identical to what we imagined and what we are attached to. We can drop all of it, and walk away from it.

1. Stop judging. Everything is perfect it as it is. The difference between good and bad is your thought.

2. Stop struggling. If it is meant to be, it will flow. Opportunity happens, it is not striven for.

3. Stop imagining. When you stop imagining, you can actually get a glimpse of what is, now. Wow. There is the most incredible and intense beauty in this moment right now. Here is where your lesson is, here is where you are meant to be, right here, right now.

4. Detach. Let go. let all go dear, so comes love. For every image you have in your mind that you are attached to, there is a completely different, and vastly more real image surrounding you right now. And in that present image is the freedom to be Who You Really Are. There is nothing more precious.

And it's all up to you, it's all up to the choices you make. So...what'll it be?


Blessings.
- Darshan



© 2010 Darshan F Jessop