When the World Falls Apart

When your world falls apart, it's kind of like the Universe is regrouping to give you some kind of opportunity. Hard as it may be, heart-breaking, nerve-wracking, difficult, and frustrating, maybe that's our chance to sit back and look at the opportunities being put forth. Here's what I have to offer for that process:

1. Recognize that you (and everything else) are a perfect part of a Perfect Whole. Just because things don't go the way you think they should, doesn't mean they're "wrong." This is a great time to look at your expectations and recognize that maybe, maybe, maybe God might know what he's doing - - despite your plans.

2. Love yourself. It can be a forlorn experience, leaving you feeling desperately alone and lonely. Most people just aren't able to see beyond their own world into yours, and to have the expectation that they will just hurts more. This is a good time to treat yourself like you might wish others were treating you. Be loyal to yourself, be good to yourself, listen to yourself, honor your feelings, let yourself cry, recognize your strength, and know you are the best friend you have always wanted to find in others.

3. Focus on your strengths. It's way too easy to start beating yourself up, but if you can remember that everything is perfect the way it is (even if you don't like the way it is), you can stop feeling guilty about something you did or didn't do. Overcome your guilt and you have paved the path to your own healing. Your greatest strength is your own self-empowerment. Drop shame and blame and focus on what you're capable of - there are so few limits in real life, outside the limitations of our own thoughts - go for it.

4. Forgive. Forgive, forgive, forgive - can I say it enough? Forgive yourself, forgive all others. This is the greatest tool there is for healing, empowerment, compassion, and deep insight. Forgive and then go back and forgive some more.

It's tough. Life happens while we're busy making other plans, and no matter how prepared we think we are, it can still happen that things feel like they're falling apart. These tools won't make it all go away, but they will give you some compassion for yourself and the ability to move through whatever is happening with grace.

Blessings.
- Darshan

© 2009 Darshan F Jessop