Fuming

You ever feel that nagging anger, going over a situation again and again in your head, literally fuming over something?

The underlying feeling is impotence - we are fuming because we feel helpless and hopeless to change a situation.

But fume no more! This is the victim role and it can be turned around, changed, eliminated by taking positive action.

Here is a writing exercise:
1) Write down the situation as you remember it, use your anger to fuel your words and get it all down on paper.

2) Take a new piece of paper and write out how you would have liked the situation to go.

3) On a third sheet - assess how far apart the first and second versions are. Check in and see if there is anything you can do to get the situation to now more closely resemble version 2 more than version 1. Make an action list.

4) Take any action you have listed, but do it without expectation. it might not produce the version you would have liked to see. But do it for yourself, so that you may move on to forgiveness. Forgive yourself and all others for ever forgetting that we are all a perfect part of a perfect whole. Forgive yourself, forgive the others involved. And move on. Life is too short to waste it fuming.

Blessings.
- Darshan

© 2009 Darshan F Jessop