On Closure

It is amazing when someone simply removes you from their life, you want to sit and wonder, you want to question, you want closure, you want answers, but the only answer is this: if they couldn't find the courage to speak with you, they didn't have the courage to TRULY love you, and no matter what it feels like, the move is a good one.

That may be hard to remember when you feel what you feel, but the only real closure is the lesson you take from it. Life gives you plenty of playing ground to learn to trust your intuition, even when it feels counterintuitive to believe it. You think you know things aren't quite right, but when you address it...well there's an awful lot of hemming and hawing, there is an awful lot of non-answering, non-truth, non-everything, and yes, that is non-love.

The only closure there is, is knowing that YOU loved. Each of us is a perfect part of the perfect whole and that's true even when they walk right out of your life, telling you they suffered for the bad choices you weren't aware you made, and even when they never bothered to communicate to you about such things at the time, even when you weren't given the opportunity to do better. We are each a perfect part of a perfect whole no matter how blissfully ignorant we are that the people we love don't agree. The only closure is your willingness to look inside yourself and learn from your lessons.... to reach for ever more clarity, describe your expectations even more clearly, describe what you have to offer even more clearly still, and then to simply accept your intutive hits, and allow those who don't love you to leave your life.

Because love doesn't lock you out, it doesn't hurt you, you are invited to join, not closed out. The only closure needed in that is to shut the door yourself so it isn't slammed in your face anymore. You can only accept that you chose to believe and it was a poor choice, and to let it go. The closure is in keeping up and keeping faith that with or without human interaction God's Love is Infinite and you will always be held in the infinite, abundant, loving hands of the Creator.

There are, there truly will always be endless questions about love, but they cannot be answered within the context of each person's broken attempts and refusals. It is All Good. In the end, the why's don't matter as much as your ability to learn from it so the mind is better stilled. Meditate on God's Love, vibrate the frequency of openness and love. Know that Love is IN YOU not outside and thank those you have loved for reminding you.

Blessings.
- Darshan

© 2009 Darshan F Jessop