Surrender

Not surrendering in life to those we love is a way of saying, “I don’t need you,” when one of the biggest human needs is to be needed. Not surrendering is saying, “I will stay in control.” Who’s in control anyway? And in the end not surrendering in relationship is the mirror image of not surrendering to the Will of God. It’s like saying to God, “you can only have this much control.”

Surrender is a deep and powerful word, not without any number of suggestive implications that one must give something up, but I protest! What is love without surrender? How is it possible? We have to surrender to the Will of God. We have to surrender to opening, otherwise how can you share on the molecular level? To open that much requires a trust so deep that it is completely impossible without surrender. To surrender is to move away from the place of fear and into the place of Love.

And here is the question: if we cannot serve each other, what is our purpose? We all come and we all leave, and what is our mark on the world? The service of our partner and mate in life is what empowers us to be the biggest and greatest that we can be, to reach the highest destiny possible in our lifetimes. Women and men leave their marks in different ways, but they are no less important. If I can serve you, if I can believe in your highest mission in life, and empower you through love and service and whatever essential qualities of a woman which help, you can absolutely reach it. Our service in life is to love.

Yes, we just want to beam out lots of love! Isn’t that what we do as humans in interactive relationships? We seek to beam our love to the people around us we care about. We do this first as children at home, and then we do it out in the world. We beam our love with the hope of it being acknowledged. We spend our lives seeking the right opportunity to beam our love out there and have it accepted. The making or breaking of any relationship is based on that ability. The same goes for friendships. The same goes for our work. The antithesis would be the deflection of that love we beam out when it is not accepted, when it is rejected. Our service in life IS to love.

We love individuals with more or less a degree of acceptance. And this degree determines how happy or unhappy we are in our relationships with all things in our lives. We can complain all we want about spouses, salaries and situations with jobs or people, but the truth is – we just want to beam our love out in the world and not feel like we are being held back from doing that because the holding back means we can’t serve in the biggest way, we can only serve a little bit, and that’s like not beaming our love at all.

Devotion, bhakti, sweet devotion, is the essence of service; to ourselves, to each other, to the world. You have to be able to accept devotion – walls keep it out. If you are not willing, devotion will not be allowed. But it’s imperative in relationship. Devotion, surrender, molecular transfusion… these are the path to God. Devotion is the willingness to love committedly. The path of devotion is so special, probably because devotion is service and surrender and those spell commitment. To me those spell success.


Blessings and love.
- Darshan





© 2010 Darshan F Jessop