The Victim and the Victor

There is such a thin line between victim and victor that with almost every breath we have to choose carefully so we don't end up where we didn't want to be. It is in our spoken language, our thoughts, our body language, and our actions that we have to make those choices - every single day.

It's like the difference between inside and out, learning to recognize victim from victor. If there is any (ANY) finger-pointing, anyone else, any situation, any occurrence, any action by anyone else that is having a finger pointed at it, i.e blamed or held to be at fault, it's outside, and victim. Anytime you put yourself at the mercy of someone else, you have lost power and control over your life. Because the only real power there is, is the power of choice - you can choose how you respond. That is victory, that is victorious, that is the victor and anything less than that is victim.

There is not enough that can be said about this because life, especially modern day life, is so chock full of excuses! It's the weather, or the job, or the bad upbringing, or the economy, or Big Business, or a billion other excuses and all of it 100% disempowering. You leave it up to someone else and you have given up your seat behind the wheel.

So - no - you can't go out and fix the weather, the job, the bad upbringing, the economy or Big Business, but you can change how you work with them, you can change how they affect you, and at the very least, you can change how you react. You can change that so much that you take the reaction right out of the equation, and that is really when these things cease to affect you completely.

If you look at life - as if those little chiggers in everyday situations are gifts to help you learn the fine art of acting rather than reacting, of choosing the victor role rather than the victim role - wow, that's when life stops bugging you. All those little chiggers are just an opportunity that life is giving you to take a look at the situation and take a look at your own response.

Everyday life is filled with them - all those chiggers, the memories and the experiences and the dreams, and life is asking you: "What's it going to be the victim or the victor?" And how will you answer?

Blessings.
- Darshan




© 2010 Darshan F Jessop