Themes

It was said once, that every story of love has the same theme, a misunderstanding that needs to be rectified before the happy ending can happen. Sometimes you read these stories or see movies with the theme, and you think, "damn, if only he had been more honest in the first place, this whole mess wouldn't have happened," or "oh man, if she would just talk about what she's feeling..."

Perhaps these are a model for real life. Isn't it true? Where there is difficulty in any facet of love, there seems to be misunderstanding lurking somewhere. Once there is enough distance you can think, "if only we had been able to talk about it," but until that distance, it's just like the theme of those high-selling novels and films - - a series of misunderstandings which need to be clarified and worked out before real connection is possible.

Life is full of these situations - whether they are the interaction with the cashier, an interaction with parents or children, an interaction with friends, lovers, partners, spouses - these themes happen. We feel things, think things, experience things, and we are afraid, for whatever reason to open up about them.

Yet closeness isn't really possible without taking the risk and sharing. There are just misunderstandings otherwise. And what a waste of good relationships, good friendships, good life.

Don't allow misunderstandings to guide your life - happy endings can only ever happen when we are brave enough to be who we really are and to share it unabashedly, fearlessly, to talk through the misunderstandings until there is - - understanding. Whatever paths your lives take, the understanding will always be an enhancement to the quality of relationships.

Misunderstandings work well as themes for books and movies to get you intrigued, but remember - the real satisfaction comes from the resolution.

Blessings.
- Darshan

© 2009 Darshan F Jessop