The Source of Unhappiness

Unhappiness comes from a combination of two things: not being who we are, and having expectations that life should be different than it is.

We struggle, we fight, we resist being who we really are. We hide cattish behavior behind falseness, we hide fear behind false bravado, we hide gentleness behind toughtness and toughness behind niceties, we hide our desire for love behind strong facades, we hide our sadness behind laughter, we hide our discontent with ourselves behind tools of superficial beautification...

We spend alot of our time not being who we really are; and all the time we are doing that we are feeding our unhappiness.

The other side of it is our (mostly unconscious) expectations of what life should be like that we are living with. We have these ideas, and many times we don't even know where they came from; these ideas represent what we believe life should be like and but life isn't like that and then we suffer because life doesn't live up to this expectation we have of it.

Here is the answer: celebrate what is, instead of what isn't. If you want to be happy, celebrate who you are - all your quirks, your sillinesses, your seriousness, the way you do the things you do. Celebrate it, love it, be grateful. And celebrate what is in life instead of what isn't. Find the root of those unconscious (or conscious) expectations of yours and cut them free, let them fly away to God, while you stand with your feet planted firmly on the ground and breathe in life into your very cells, right now, right here in this very moment.

Happiness is a choice of our active willingness to be who we are and to drink in the life that is, rather than wanting to be someone else in a different life.

Choose well.

Blessings.
- Darshan

© 2008 Darshan F Jessop