Equanimity

It's goofy, but sometimes you just have to trust that things will be all right, you have to just know that the Universe (and all its components) is your friend and not your enemy, and, perhaps most important of all, you have to know that how you feel about things really is the main force behind how they turn out.

That's a tough request there when rent is due and children and a million other details require our care and attention and life gets overwhelming. How can you trust when the numbers don't line up, when the day does not have enough hours, when everything seems like it's coming at you at once? How can the Universe be your friend when things are falling apart? And how can you possibly persuade yourself to be chipper in the midst of all this??

Find the place inside where there is pure and perfect equanimity and neutrality. In that place there is peace. There is no attachment to what is happening and no attachment to an outcome other than what is right now. It is a desireless, wishless, calm and easy place of presence that pushes fear and frustration to the side, and allows you to breathe really, really deeply.

Because all these emotions just block you. What is the use in getting bent out of shape because things aren't different than the way they are? How does getting upset about it help change things? Maybe it's good as a tool for awareness but beyond that wishing, hoping or wanting things to be different isn't enough.

In the place of equanimity there is the ability to assess what actions and steps might create the sort of change you'd like. Freaking out about the way something is does not offer that same ability.

You have to choose. If you don't want to do anything about it, then by all means keep freaking out, and not trusting, and believing the Universe is out to get you. Or - if you want to do something about it, get past the emotion. Get to the place where you are neutral and take a look around for what you can do to start that change.

Blessings.
- Darshan






© 2010 Darshan F Jessop