Forgiving

We have got to be more forgiving with ourselves. It is good and perhaps even important to have objectives, goals and ideals to live up to. Where we fall short is where we begin to judge ourselves for anything we don't reach, make, succeed with in some illusory timeframe (i.e. right now!). In that place of judgment is where we are the most unloving towards ourselves and ultimately the most unkind. It is where problems with self-worth arise and self-loathing.

Who set these ideals? They completely skate over the present and ignore every beautiful aspect of who we are because they are obsessed with being something else. That's not real. And yet - we persuade ourselves that these objectives or ideals are reality and then punish ourselves (i.e. with self-loathing) when we don't meet them.

No, no, no, we need to be more forgiving with ourselves. It is a good and noble thing to strive for high ideals, but never while forgetting that Who We Are - here and now - is already perfect the way it is. There is simply no need for the torment of "I'm not good enough" because you are not like them, or you are not reaching a goal (like yesterday), or you are falling short of some objective in a timeframe that is unrealistic for you.

Always strive towards goodness, but leave the judgment way, far behind. Please. You have to be more forgiving with yourself because Who You Are (even before any proposed changes) is an amazing, beautiful, awesome being already.


Blessings.
- Darshan






© 2010 Darshan F Jessop