Things Are As We Say

We create the world we live in day by day through our thoughts and our words. If we are constantly using words like “struggle,” “depressing,” or “difficult,” to describe life, life has no choice but to be all three. If we constantly say things like, “I’m just wiped out,” or “I’m totally stressed,” that is how we will be – all the time.

It can get tricky because some days really can be difficult, and stress is a pretty common thing in today’s world. The problem lies in fact that we are choosing this mode of response to our circumstances. And that choice is what makes our lives difficult or stressful. We think we are responding to something after the fact- describing the way things have been (past tense) but really we are creating the condition in the first place.

Because no matter what is going on, ours is the choice of how we deal with it. We can respond to a situation with stress or we can go with the situation, we can think a situation is incredibly difficult, or we can flow with it. Whatever mode we choose to deal with it, we will still get through it. Amazingly, we will often get through it much easier without all the negative thoughts. Then situations which were stressful in the past are simply things that happen, with no extra emotional baggage and we are much lighter in life.

For just one week, try monitoring your thoughts. Check in with yourself when you are thinking about the activities of the day, and rather than expecting them to be stressful, see if you can re-program your thinking to just expecting them to be scheduled activities. Leave that emotional baggage behind and see how you get through your day. It may take a couple days, but it is most likely that you will begin to feel lighter and less stressed (or struggling, or depressed, or any number of other things), less tired and much more at ease with the things that are going on with your life. In that neutral space, it is much easier to assess whether schedule changes need to be made (i.e. not over-booking yourself) and you can feel much more in control of how you manage your life and your happiness.


Blessings.
- Darshan
© 2009 Darshan F Jessop