"I Can't..."

A long time ago I flew to the folks home, rather than driving. I had a young son, too young to manage the 2-day drive. This took a totally different preparation. Different things packed for a different trip, a 2.5 hour shuttle to the airport instead of park and ride, and all the rigamarole of travel with an infant.

Finally settled into the shuttle and the child happy I turned my attention to my neighbor, a kindly woman, perhaps 1- years my senior, who nodded wisely and said, "I was a single mom of four girls." I had no idea how she knew I was a single mom, but she did and we talked about how she managed with 4, when even 1 was hard enough!

We shared alot of information on that 2.5 hr trip, each giving the other some special gem of wisdom and what I learned from her was this: she said if she was capable of changing her past, there would only have been one thing that she would change. When she was going through it all, she would always say, "I can't do this, I can't do this." That one thing, she said, if she could change anything, it would be that she had never said that, never ever ever. Because she always came through, no matter what.

We spend our lives thinking, "I can't do this," but of course we can. We will always come through, no matter what. Why spend the effort on the heavy energy of "I can't do this" when it just makes life 1 million times harder, when we know we're going to plug along until we make it through?

Life comes in all shapes and sizes, as do all the experiences that happen across our paths, and ours is the choice of whether we make it even harder by insisting that we can't when of course we will do whatever it takes.

So here is the sage wisdom I have to pass on today, courtesy of one of those Touched By an Angel moments in life - don't say "I can't do this," when life hands you all the tricky stuff. Just know, just know that you will get through just fine.

Blessings.
- Darshan

© 2009 Darshan F Jessop