Nobody Loves Me

I do believe that this line, "Nobody loves me," has to be the outward expression of nearly all depression. But the inward expression is: "I am not worthy of being loved." In our wacky, external-gratification-geared society, the way to handle "nobody loves me," is to rush out and buy something. A truck, clothes, dishwashing liquid, jewelry - - if our modern sales teams were to believed, these products along with many others, will resolve the "nobody loves me" problem.

But, all they really do is change an external circumstance. Now you drive a different car, use a different soap to wash your dishes, dress differently, wear a different ring - what has truly changed? Nothing.

The essence of "nobody loves me" is the feeling of being unworthy of love and until this is addressed, being loved isn't even possible. And it's not cliche, there is nothing easy about all of a sudden feeling worthy of being loved. it's not nece4ssarily something we can talk ourselves into, it's not something that someone else can convince us of. That's the problem, it's nothing external at all.

To feel worthy of love you have to be willing to:
1) share/show/expose Who You Really Are
2) forgive yourself and all others for ever forgetting that you are a perfect part of a perfect whole
3) love yourself completely, wholly and without reserve
4) allow others to love you

Someone once said that loneliness was an insult to God. To feel as if we are alone, when God is always with us, insults the vastness and greatness of God. Isn't it the same with feeling worthy of love? If we were created in the image of God, or going further, if we ARE God by being a part of the molecular make up of God, not feeling worthy of being loved is like saying God isn't worthy of being loved. How can that be?

Too often we are stuck in the limited thinking processes of the self-preserving ego, and it's self-defeating. The ego is stuck in fear, and fear is the opposing force to love. The highest love is to serve without expectation of anything being reciprocated. Let go of fear, drop fear by reaching higher than yourself, by serving others, and you can embrace love. Love of self, love of humanity, love of God. Live love, breathe love, act from a place of love and love will flow to you in leaps and bounds.

Forget whining and complaining (even internally and silently!) about not being loved. Train yourself to serve, train yourself to drop fear and you will be showered with love.

Blessings.
- Darshan

© 2008 Darshan F Jessop